When a guy is serious about a woman, he shares himself with her.He lets her into his world and shows some level of vulnerability. Men aren’t used to opening up and showing their emotions and they are much more selective when it comes to letting people in.
If a guy knows for certain that you’ll always be there waiting in the wings, no matter how badly he behaves, he won’t respect you and he definitely won’t want to commit to you–why should he when he knows he doesn’t have to? His disappearing acts serve more as a way to let you know this relationship isn’t serious and he is still free to do what he wants.
If you’re the only one making the effort to keep the spark alive and do special things, it’s a sign that he isn’t very invested in you. He won’t introduce you to his family A lot of women make the mistake of thinking that meeting a guy’s friends is a big deal.
Maybe some guys view this as a big deal, but most don’t.
When a guy opens up to you, when he shares his dreams, his fears, his hopes, his wishes, his motivations, etc., he is investing in you.
By investing in you, he is committing himself to you.